Dealing with Energy Vampires

In every contact with others there is an impact on our energy level. Most of us are conditioned to think of others as either giving or taking energy. When we are sapped of energy we view the person on the other end of the relationship as an energy vampire–people who are either on the attack […]

Wear the world as a loose garment

“Wear the world as a loose garment, which touches us in a few places and there lightly” –attributed by some to St. Francis of Assisi, but probably made up by some guy named Fred Wearing the world as a loose garment. It’s a phrase not uncommon in the rooms of Twelve Step recovery due to […]

Quieting the Committee

As I have alluded to in previous posts, tapping into our internal blueprint for living–God’s will if you prefer–requires quiet, thoughtful introspection. Just one issue with that, when I attempt to get quiet I notice that my mind typically doesn’t easily settle into a serene, introspective state. Instead there is chatter. Not one or two […]

Is a Sugar Daddy God’s Will

Of the myriad concepts, principles and practices thrown at a newcomer when first entering Twelve Step recovery, nothing creates more confusion than the suggestion to seek and do the will of a Higher Power. Personally, I struggled with this suggestion in the early years in pronounced fashion. It still crops up to throw me from […]

The Role of Honesty in Recovery

“We tell lies when we are afraid … afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what others would think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing we fear grows stronger.” – Tad Williams The recovery process is often summed up as “Trust God, […]

The Gift of Desperation

Holding a large butcher knife, I staggered to the master bedroom, slammed the door and dramatically announced I was ending it all. At least that is what I was told. I was in a blackout much of my last drinking spree. I had been trying to stop drinking for fourteen years. When I actually did […]

Forget, Then Forgive

You, one of the (as of 11/13/2014) 12,985 visitors to this blog, might be hoping to find sublime insights into overcoming addiction and mental illness. I’m afraid you won’t find sublime here. That’s the deal with real life recovery; each recovery story looks a lot like the stories that come before. We get sane and […]

The Second Principle: Faith

All I have seen teaches me to trust the Creator for all I have not seen. – Ralph Waldo Emerson Following the principle of acceptance, Step Two tells us we got to get a little faith. But faith in what? Faith that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Please note, however, […]

Be Still: Step Eleven

Before refrigerators for home use began to proliferate in the 1930s, people used ice boxes to preserve their food. The ice for these ice boxes was store in icehouses that had thick walls, no windows and a tightly fitting door. In the winter, when lakes froze over, large blocks of ice were cut, hauled to […]

The First Principle: Acceptance

Nothing clarifies my thinking, brings peace of mind or put me in a position to effect positive change like acceptance–acceptance of everything as it is right now; no vain attempts to rewrite the past or worrying about a future that may not materialize. But there is a catch. While acceptance implies that I am fully […]